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What is collaring?

Different collars have different meanings. When you hear “collaring”, you tend to think of the ownership (mentioned below) but there are other ties when collars may be worn:

  • Play collar - These collars are very commonly worn during scenes and tend to have no significant meaning behind them.
  • Protection collar - This is when a Dom wants to show that a submissive is protected and is commonly used in dungeons or kinky house parties. This lets other Doms know that while this sub is not owned, they are not are free to touch or approach.
  • Consideration collar- This is one of the first steps in showing advancement in a D/s dynamic. It signifies that the submissive is being considered for a long term relationship or ownership, however, it is normally worn for an agreed on amount of time and can be revoked.
  • Training collar - This type of collar shows that a submissiev is currently being trained by a Dom.
  • Ownership collar - This is not to be taken lightly, it is the equivalent of giving/receiving an engagement ring and shows that the submissive is owned.

Types of collars:

  • Dog collars
  • Leather collars
  • Ribbon collars
  • Metal collars
  • Discreet/day collars
  • Bracelet or anklet collars

Where to buy collars?

Collars can be bought at local dungeons by vendors and crafters. You can also find those same people on Fetlife through meets, munches, and networking. However, you can buy collars online as well.

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Collar Information Post Part 2:

This post is a continuation of my first post on collaring, which can be viewed here. A lot of the information is the same when discussing the collar types but has been elaborated on a bit more for classification sake.

If you’re curious about where to buy collars, please view part 1 linked above.

Top row, left to right

Posture Collar - You’ve probably seen these collars in pictures, they tend to be fairly large and cover up most of the neck, some even touch the chin and the base of the skull. They are worn to for photographic purposes, as a fashion statement/fun, or a way to restrict neck movement, enhance posture, and keep a sub’s chin up to show respect.

Play collar - These collars are very commonly worn during scenes and tend to have no significant meaning behind them. You’ll also see them worn in fun picture sets for pet play. Play collars are typically dog collars, leather collars, or ribbon collars. Most of the time you’ll see them without locks since they’re meant to be put on taken off at the sub or bottom’s will.

Protection collar - This is when a Dom wants to show that a submissive is protected and is commonly used in dungeons or kinky house parties. This lets other Doms know that while this sub is not owned, they are not are free to touch or approach. These collars are typically dog collars or leather collars.


Consideration collar- This is one of the first steps in showing advancement in a D/s dynamic. It signifies that the submissive is being considered for a long term relationship or ownership, however, it is normally worn for an agreed on amount of time and can be revoked for any reason. These collars tend to be leather collars*.


Training collar - This type of collar shows that a submissive is currently being trained by a Dom. It gives a taste of the power that the Dom has over the sub. These collars also tend to be leather collars*.

Both consideration and training collars can be worn with locks. This, again, shows the control over the sub and lets them know that they have reached a point where their power exchange is becoming a more active part of their life.

*If worn out public, these collars can be substituted with a day collar. (Bottom row, right side)

Bottom Row, left side:

Ownership collar (also known as a formal collar or slave collar) - This is not to be taken lightly, it is the equivalent of giving/receiving a wedding ring and shows that the submissive is owned. An ownership collar is earned after a sub has completed their training or deemed worthy of being kept long term. This means it could be years before a sub receives an ownership collar. These collars can look like anything from a leather dog collar, to a metal collar (most commonly seen), to a symbolic piece of jewelry (a bracelet, anklet,  necklace, or ring). Some Doms even prefer to tattoo or brand their sub, this is more commonly done in the Master/slave dynamic and Gorean lifestyle. It’s completely up to the Dom and sub.

The meaning behind the collar should not be a game of guess work, especially ownership collars. If you have to ask yourself if the collar you’re wearing signifies that you’re owned, then it’s probably not an ownership collar. When a Dom gives you a collar they will (or should) tell you the meaning behind it and discuss any questions you may have regarding it. As for the type of collar given, it’s not the look of it that matters but the bond and meaning behind it.

Proper etiquette  and collars:
If you’re a Dom and you see a sub with a collar, you should avoid trying to make advancements of any sort unless you’ve talked it out with their Dom. Some Doms even require that you speak to them before even approaching or conversing with their sub. Do not disrespect the relationship or the Dom’s ownership.

If you’re a sub and wearing a consideration, training, or ownership collar you should not take off your collar (assuming it’s not locked or you have access to the key) without your Dom’s permission. Taking it off during arguments is considered rude and disrespectful. Doing so may even result in a punishment.

What is collaring?
Collaring is the moment that shows that a sub has completed their training and their relationship with their Dom has been taken to a new level. If you can think of consideration and training collars as engagement rings, the ownership collar is similar to a wedding ring. Sometimes ceremonies are held by the Dom to celebrate this moment.

For more information on collaring ceremonies and examples of how to plan one, please click here.

Just as Doms earn a sub’s submission through love and trust, a sub earns their collars through their hard work and devotion. Subs are not entitled to ownership collars just because they’ve been with their Dom for a couple months.

External links for more information on collaring:

Collars and Their Meanings

The Impact of Velcro Collars on the Symbolism by lunaKM

What It Means to be Collared by LadySneak

The Ring and the Collar by tequilarose

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